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Thoughts for another Mother’s Day

The sorrow and empathy I felt for mother cows having their infants snatched away from them so humans could have the milk they made for their babies turned me vegan overnight. I would have tried to kill anyone who had attempted to take away any of my babies soon after I birthed them and was flooded with hormones intended to bond me to them. It is monstrous that we inflict this pain on cow mothers, all for dairy milk which we do NOT need. Each time we pay for a bottle of this stuff, or a slab of cheese, an ice cream or bar of milk chocolate, we give our consent to this treatment of cows and their babies. We are committing atrocities. Let us face it and change our ways.

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Every festival and specially designated ‘day’ presents a shameless commercial opportunity to flood the market with consumer goods and Mother’s Day is no different. The shops are filling up with items targeted at those who gladly embrace this annual occasion to tangibly demonstrate the love and respect that they hold for the mothers in their lives. For some, that Mother is the one whose body created, nurtured and laboured to give birth to them; for others, that Mother is the mother of their children; for others that Mother is the special person who mothered them when they needed mothering despite there being no connection of blood between them. As a mother myself, I can say that motherhood is a role that does not depend on, or even require, acknowledgement or gratitude for its continuing, but deep down we all recognise and appreciate that for many of us, our mother is…

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We’ve all been Played

We are lied to relentlessly by the industries who profit from animal suffering and death. They have everything to lose if the truth gets out. Don’t be conned. Farming animals is horrific exploitation, slaughtering them is brutal violence. Do not be a part of this atrocity please. Find your heart and your courage. Go vegan.

Mercy for all Animals


It sucks to face it, but every one of us has been played and continues to be played by the industries that make enormous profits off animals who are exploited without mercy.

I note that when I watch TV I’m constantly faced with the bombardment of animal parts shown continuously to make sure people see that pieces of animal bodies are delicious and normal to enjoy.

This constant drumbeat on behalf of selling animal body parts to consume is done very well and we all know that when something is perpetually shown to us as acceptable, mainstream, necessary and normal, we all begin to feel that it must be ok then.

Of course, what they don’t show is the animal on the factory farm or in the slaughterhouse.

That might ruin our appetites.

I can hear the big meat and dairy industry leaders and owners of fast food restaurants…

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Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows: The Power of Social Conditioning

I met Dr Melanie Joy at Vegfest, London, a couple of years ago. I attended her talk and bought a signed copy of her book. I recommend it.

Mercy for all Animals

I see the power of cultural conditioning all the time, every day, when I encounter kind, loving people who would never dream of hurting or killing an animal but continue not to question the exploitation of animals, particularly for food.

“Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows” is a book written by Dr. Melanie Joy,  a social psychologist, professor, and personal coach who has been involved in the animal liberation movement since 1989 and is one of the most brilliant speakers on behalf of sentient creatures.

Dr. Joy explains why it is that good people do not readily face the fact that their choices to buy animal products result in enormous suffering and violent death.

It then makes sense as to why good people– who would swerve to avoid hitting an animal on the road, and who would stop to help an injured creature they encountered– don’t make…

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Bathrooms? Transmen? What nonsense.

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Transmen are used to being ignored. No, that’s OK. In many ways it’s good. It means that we can sneak in and point out all the flaws in anti-trans thinking, which is usually stacked against transwomen, and ignores us completely.

Take the Great Bathroom Debate. The thinking goes thus: If you let transgender people go into whatever bathroom they like, you’re going to get a bunch of people who look like men appearing in the women’s bathroom.

Here’s the problem. If you don’t let transgender people go into whatever bathroom they like, you’re going to get a bunch of people who look like men appearing in the women’s bathroom.

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The Great Bathroom Debate

As the mother of a transgender child, this is important stuff.

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Which public bathrooms should transgender people be using? I’m a transman, and it was put to me by a friend that the whole argument is trivial, and that trans people should suck it up and go wherever our junk dictates.

I’ll explain why he is wrong. Firstly and most obviously, most transmen don’t get genital surgery, but we do look entirely male in every other way. For more information on how the bathroom debate totally ignores the reality of transmen, go here.

The next thing that needs to be understood is how it feels to be a trans person in public places. In my early days of transition, everything was important. A day when I did not “pass” for male felt like month’s worth of progress had been lost. There’s no way to describe this, other than gut-wrenching.

I can’t comment on whether that’s an overraction. I can only…

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Claiming exceptions

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‘That’s not true. That just happens on factory farms.  It doesn’t happen on allfarms‘.

This depressingly common statement appeared recently on a friend’s page in response to a post. It’s been lingering on my mind ever since because variations on ‘that doesn’t apply in every case, there are ‘good’ ways of doing it’, are a very common retaliation used by those seeking to defend, justify and solicit approval for their use of members of other species. It is an attempt to invalidate what is being said on the basis that someone, somewhere, claims there is an exception to whatever is being stated.

‘The way I use animals is different from the way that everyone else does it’

‘That only happens:

  • in ‘factory’ farms;
  • in ‘other’ countries;
  • in ‘battery’ chicken farms;
  • in ‘foreign’ slaughterhouses;
  • in ‘other’ cultures’.

‘That may happen in some places but:

  • not in this country (wherever);

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Wishes as another year ends

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It wasn’t always so, but the longer I advocate for the rights of the innocent victims of our species, the more increasingly difficult I find the festive season. In my usual way, I’ve tried to work out why this should be, because after all, today, as the year wanes, the world is no less vegan than it is at any other time of the year. Like everyone else, I am constantly surrounded by a culture that has normalised the most sickening brutality; a brutality that has been re-branded for uncritical consumers in such a way that the majority are not only oblivious, but in deep denial about their complicity with the bloodbath and stanch in their perception of themselves as ‘animal lovers’.  I live in a society so entrenched in causing an endless bloodbath that they have learned to respond to the truth with outrage and aggression, so convinced are…

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